“The mind is its own place and in itself can make a heaven of hell and a hell of heaven.” ~ Milton, A Paradise Lost
We waste a lot of energy thinking and rethinking situations in our minds. I’m sure you remember times when you’ve taken a perfectly good problem and run it over in your mind until you ended up with a serious conflict. We become our own worst enemy when we use too much energy thinking about a problem over and over again. My father gave me a great example of this. When he was a young boy, there was a bully in his neighborhood. This kid was bigger than the other children and took advantage of his size by pushing the other kids around. Although he never touched my father, he was a threat in my father’s mind.
So my dad began lifting weights and taking boxing lessons. Then one day he saw the bully sitting on the porch outside of his house and while not saying a word and mustering up all his courage, my dad walked up and hit the kid right in the mouth. That may seem strange but it’s a great example of creating conflict out of a problem, and it all took place inside my father’s head. We waste a lot of energy by over processing a problem and creating a conflict that only exists in our mind.
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